Saturday, September 10, 2011

My Personal Birthing Experiences

I have been blessed with the experience of giving birth to my two beautiful children, Tyler who is 23, and Shelby who is 16. Both births were completely different; I was a single parent when I gave birth to Tyler and was married when I had Shelby. Tyler came into the world one day past my due date at 7:25 a.m. weighing in at a whopping 10 pounds 4 ounces and was 22 1/2 inches long! He never wore newborn clothing and was holding his head up right after I gave birth to him! He was a dream baby and I was blessed with being able to nurse him for the first 6 months. Shelby, on the other hand, was 2 weeks overdue and arrived at 9:25 p.m. 7 years later after being induced and she was a peanut compared to Tyler at 8 pounds 3 ounces, and was 21 1/2 inches long with beautiful strawberry blonde hair like her daddy's. I had complications after her birth as the placenta did not deliver in one piece and I hemorrhaged for 2 days before they decided to go in and do a D & C to try and stop the bleeding. I was not told about the D & C until after I had eaten breakfast so I was only given an epidural for the procedure. As I was laying there listening to the doctors, the concern was that maybe I would have to have a hysterectomy if they could not get the bleeding to stop. That's all I remember and when I woke up I was so cold and shaking violently. I had lost so much blood they had to put the warming blankets on me to get my body temperature back to normal. My blood count was a 3, and they say 12 is normal. They released me the next day from the hospital and I went home to take care of my 7 year old and my newborn. I was also trying to nurse and was not producing milk like I knew I should. I can honestly say that I do not remember a lot of the first month after Shelby was born (she was born the end of November) but on Christmas Eve I knew something was wrong when she was not having many wet diapers so my husband drove to the grocery store and bought some formula. Poor little thing just scarfed that down, she was so hungry! I quit nursing immediately and gave her formula. That was scary! Since I had a positive experience with nursing my son, I knew something was wrong when I was not feeling full in my breasts. I finally stopped bleeding after I passed a huge clot about 2 months after her birth. I was lucky to have my 2 children because I also had 2 miscarriages.

In China, women are given a strong herbal potion to ease the labor pain and have no fear of labor since it is their career to give birth. They are put into recliners and futons for birthing. After the birth, women "sit the month" for the first month to heal. Not a realistic choice for us women here if we have other children at home.


Reference:
http://www.babyzone.com/pregnancy/labor_birth/birthing_traditions/article/childbirth-traditions-china-pg2

4 comments:

  1. Lori,
    It was so interesting reading about your birthing experiences. Your second experience must have been so traumatic and I am so sorry you had to go through all of that. It must have been so frightening. Was Shelby's development affected at all? My oldest daughter has a slight central auditory processing disorder. I wonder at times if it was the drugs that were given to me at her birth. Or is it something that was in her genes? Or did I do something during pregnancy? I will never know.

    I really enjoyed reading everyone's facts about birthing in other countries. I wish I could have taken a month off to heal!

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  2. Lori,
    Thank you for sharing this story. This is an amazing experience and I am glad that you are okay. Do you think that this experience has created a stronger bond between you and the children?

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  3. I really enjoyed your comments about birthing traditions in China. I have always been fascinated with the herbal remedies that are used in China and think that the US could probably benefit from incorporating more herbal remedies to replace some pharmaceuticals. I also found it really interesting that the women think of giving birth and having a child as their career so they are well prepared and take it very seriously. Thank you very much for sharing!

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  4. I can't imagine your pain of giving birth to a 10pounds baby...It is amazing how the birthing process is so different in different countries. I really like how Berger discuss the Kangaroo Care and how beneficial it is for babies. It is also good to know that healthcare professionals opt to put in practice those techniques for the benefit of the infants.

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