I was surprised at how my husband perceives my communication. He thinks I am not afraid to do anything when it comes to speaking in public or doing activities in front of people. He wishes he could more like me but is not comfortable doing those things. He gives me a boost of self-confidence that I need some days I need very badly.
I also know that I am too trusting and I need to work on this area. I am a good listener and try to do the right things but in the end I usually get the short end of the stick. I need to set some boundaries for myself and hopefully this will help me to become a more effective listener and communicator. I am definitely a people person but need to work on the trust factor.
My co-worker and my husband rated me about the same. All three of my scores were about the same with the exception of my husband's communication anxiety score.
I hope to find someone who is a good example in all these areas so that I can improve my skills as well.
It sounds like our husbands are the same. Mine also thinks that I am such a good communicator. It is a good thing that he can't see how fast my heart is beating and how dry my mouth is when I speak in front of people. :)
ReplyDeleteThat must mean that you are a great communicator. It does us all well to be able to speak in public and our families are always our first audience. very well said Lori.
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ReplyDeleteI love that you also had your husband as an evaluator. My husband scored me just as I scored myself, initially I thought how sweet he knows me so well, than the more I pondered the scores I realized he was doing nothing to boost my self confidence instead he fell into my insecurities. Now, that is still funny to me simply because as he would say he could not win in either situation. It is wonderful that your husband is a confidence booster for you. It is also great that you realize that you give so much and trust a bit too often so, you need to start protecting yourself even just a little bit.
Great job,
Schlee